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Ruby Marx, a 13-year-old from Massachusetts, has shared her experience of holding a B’nai Mitzvah, or gender-neutral coming of age Jewish ceremony.
Mazel tov Ruby Marx on your B mitzvah! We love @RavClaudia‘s blessing for you: “Keep bringing your full self to the world. The world needs people that don’t shy away from their true self; we will always be there for you.”
— Keshet (@KeshetGLBTJews) July 28, 2020
In Jewish culture, when a boy or girl turns 13, a ceremony is held to celebrate. Traditionally, a Bar Mitzvah – men’s ceremony – or Bat Mitzvah – women’s ceremony – is attended by family and friends to commemorate the person reaching adulthood.
Marx told the British newspaper “The Guardian” a B’nai Mitzvah (plural “bar” or “bat”; the son of the bar and the daughter of the bat) is “very fun”.
Marx elaborated on how classical love of rock and learning to play guitar inspired the ceremony, like Joan Jett.
“I was the first person to have a B mitzvah in my synagogue,” he said.
“I was three when I started to dress more masculine. I don’t feel like a man, but I don’t feel like a girl either. And the way I express my gender has always been supported.
“My family knows that I will be masculine and still use female pronouns and just experiment. I’m talking to them about everything. All my grandparents also know.
“People sometimes mistake me in the bathrooms but that wasn’t a big problem. There are other kids who play absolutely sex in my school, in my classroom. And there are gay guys like me and bi. All were very accepted. ”
He knew that he wanted an unconventional ceremony from a young age. And his rabbi was completely supportive.
“My rabbi is the best rabbi and he loves me, so he was very good at it,” he said.
The rabbi said a blessing at the ceremony. “Keep bringing yourself to the world. He needs people who are not ashamed of the real selves of the world; we will always be there for you. ”
In Mitzvah, Marx raised money by making rock covers to the Girls Rock Campaign Boston, which runs a summer camp.